
Today is Ed and my “Half-Anniversary”, AKA our “Legal Anniversary”. As I have already detailed in a 2015 blog post when Marriage Equality finally went national, Ed and I got married April 25, 1998, the fifth anniversary of our meeting. We didn’t receive our legal marriage rights until 2011, when New York State legalized same-sex marriage. For those papers we got married again at City Hall on October 25, our half-year anniversary date, only a few months after the new law went into effect, rather than wait until April, 2012 to do so on our actual anniversary.
This summer, photographer Michael R. Dekker invited us to pose for him in his studio. Rather than wait until our “real” anniversary next year, I thought I’d share images from that session today, on our “other” anniversary. Ed and I are generally very firm that April 25 is our proper anniversary: we met that date in 1993, got married that date in 1998, and it just took 13 / 15 / 17 years for the government to catch up to reality. Unlike April 25, Ed and I usually let October 25 pass by uncommented upon, even if our aunts on Ed’s side of the family invariably send us cards/emails. (I just joked to Aunt Louise that “it’s all part of a dastardly plan to force aunts to send two cards a year! Mua ha ha!”) But perhaps October 25 does deserve a little more recognition as an anniversary in our household – so sharing these photos will be my way to honor the date on my blog this time.
And the photos also touch upon a little story about our wedding rings that hadn’t made it into the earlier blog post…

Michael was very intrigued by our rings, as illustrated by how prominently they show up in many of his photos. They are one-of-a-kind rings we designed ourselves and had a specialist make for us.


























































































